How To Get A Life: Love & Money

24th July 2012


For the series finale, Cherry explores how money affects our relationships in a society obsessed by material wealth. Which one of you controls the purse springs? What happens to love when you’ve had it all then lost it? Would you marry a girl whose father never said no?

And can you really ever have too much money?

Cherry meets a cast of characters from the haves to the have- nots, and discovers whether money really can buy you love, or just destroy it.

Don't miss Cherry Healey: How To Get A Life - Wednesdays at 9pm on BBC Three.

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  • What!? How has the series finale anlready arrived!??? I live in Canada... is that why this is a shock? Is anyone else out their going freakazoid about this? I adore this show and now I adore Cherry Healey. She is honestly a real, down - to - earth woman. And I feel that all girls should look up to her.

  • Love and Money..

    Love you
    love me
    no money
    but we're free
    young and broke
    its no joke
    we're not crying
    just keep trying
    rock star dreams
    in the scheme of things

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    Let me spend
    Your money
    I love you..love you honey
    and I know I spend spend
    and its only money
    in the end...
    and hey honey
    I love you
    believe me I do
    Oh and darling
    leave me the money
    for my jimmy sssshooos

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    Love and money
    sort of funny
    saw love I saw
    when I had more
    now Im down
    I see you frown
    and have found
    you cabt bear me around
    all the presures on me
    cant you see
    im dying inside
    its killing my pride
    thought it was us ..
    us two..
    so what..
    what about you ?

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    I love my dogs
    and I love you too
    but if I had to choose
    you know what I'd do
    yet you stick around
    while I spend your pounds
    on me
    and of course
    my beloved hounds....

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    dominate
    humiliate..
    pay me ..pay me now
    anyway
    anyhow..
    paypal
    amazon
    anyway will do
    and for a thousand pounds more
    lick the dirt from my shoe..

  • Just watched the latest episode and i never post comments about anything i watch but i just had to comment on the absolutely ridiculous excuse for a human being that appeared on your show this evening. I do believe Sarah was her name... the lady who took all her partners wages and gave him #50 a month?....... Can i just say that her entire attitude and demeanor was absolutely pathetic. She had absolutely no respect for her partner or probably anyone else. While i do acknowledge that there are two people in every relationship and that he plays his part in how they have chosen to live their lives,and is obviously a complete submissive in the relationship.... i am still completely and absolutely in awe of how someone can go on national television and behave so badly. The woman is a complete joke who obviously enjoys treating another individual SO badly. Ah what the hell.... no point in beating around the bush here....i'm just gonna go out on a limb and say that: the woman is a complete moron in my eyes.... disgraceful :(

    • Agreed with Leaf, I couldn't deal with my own situation let along that.

      I ended up in a marriage which left very one sided financially. I had a full time job, and she had a number of jobs, mainly full time during our relationship.

      It never felt like a team effort however as I paid for all of the bills, and anything for the home which cost more than £30.

      She also had a shopping addiction where she was constantly buying things like clothes. I didn't have too much of a problem with that as I spent my money after I had paid for everything to keep us going.

      Because of this though, I never felt secure enough to have a joint bank account, which was something which upset her. We were never able to talk about money without her getting angry, so these sorts of issues were simply never discussed.

      It all came to a head for me really when I lost my job. I built up several different low paying part time jobs to try and keep us above water, but frankly it wasn't really working. She had a full time, not great paying, job but didn't help with the bills and continued to spend her money as usual. I had built up savings in my account which meant those bills could still be paid.

      Of course, eventually I did get back in to full time employment.

      We're divorcing now however, and the irony is that part of the financial agreement includes my house which I bought before we married, and is mortgage free, and the savings I have in my account - hers is of course... empty.

      Very interesting and eye opening program. I have often considered myself a failure in my relationship, and this has given me different options to think about.

      • Cherry to slave as he's about to be locked in a cage: '...or you'll not get to watch telly for a week!'
        Lololol.
        Universal balance comes in many forms; we can but keep opening our senses to it.
        Thank you Cherry.

  • Just watched the last episode... I noted something when you were trying your hand in the dungeon.... When you walked down those stairs with your beaming smile, that guy's eyes lit up! I do believe that was probably the best two hundred he'd ever spent, lol. He'll never be the same again. Kiss my shoes......thank you. Classic!

  • I have to agree that the woman who limited her partner's allowance to £50/pm featured in the last installment of Cherry Healey's get a life was tighter than one of Miriah Carey's getup's but i think everyone is entitled to a little guilt spending , it just so happens that she really loved her dogs, it's just a shame that they'll never be able to tell her that the cottonwool's chocking their air supply lol Totes love the show! All hale Cherry! mucho sad that this was the last episode but looking forward to whatever is in the mix for the future, would love to pursue a career in tv journalism too, you're skills are very much admired as too is your fashion ensembles. First hand approach makes you feel like you've ridden the donkey man straight from the comfort of your sofa, thanks for entertaining dash hugely fascinating telly.

  • Absolutely love your programme, completely gutted it is the last one in the series as well! Any chance you could let me know where the black coat with the grey panels is from? I want that coat!

  • Thanks for another fabulous series, gutted it's come to an end already.

    I've just watched this week’s final episode with my better half and thoroughly enjoyed it, although you did give away all my shopping secrets! "It was in the sale"..."this old thing I've had it ages"... I'm now going to have think of other ways to hide the bags! ha.

    I was, as many viewers have commented already, appalled at the behaviour of the wife who has complete control over her husbands finances. I can't help but think if the roles were reversed and he was the controlling partner taking her hard earned salary, spending it on his hobbies and then limiting her financially to £50 a month, that surely we'd all be advising her to leave him on the grounds that this is a type of emotional abuse?. She certainly came across as an aggressive and controlling individual with him taking a submissive role, it was sad to watch as she just had no respect for him and he knew it.
    Look forward to the next series. x

  • Watched and loved every bit if this series with my husband! Was a real eye opener!

    P.s- you are such a stylista :-)

  • can i just say in response to above statement that i know Sharn very well, and Cherry showed her in a very tame and nice light!!! she is actually worse than this! when she set out to shag my husband she couldnt give a toss about her dogs, she doesnt love her dogs they are just another form of control, when she says she doesnt do anything for nothing she absolutely lives by this, we were friends for two years just so she could have a go at my husband, she did the same thing to a friend she had for over 6 years!!! the whole "friendship" was so she could get what she wanted which ultimately was what i had, she genuinely hates to see other people happy she gets eaten up with jelousy the girl is as bad as it gets, you maybe saw 5% of her, her husband got weeks of grief for spending 89p on a pepperami and hiding the receipt from her. and i mean weeks of grief. she is a sick sick girl and the word vile was made for her!! i learnt the hardest way possible about probably the nastiest most self centered small minded selfish cow in the world i hope to god nobody else ever lets her anywhere near them!!!

  • Well I live in Australia, and I watched this episode last night. Quite a contrast between these couples. What stood out for me in the show was the married couple with kids, who were in dire financial straits. My heart was breaking for these children who looked haunted and exhausted no doubt by the constant worry over money or lack of it. So sad.

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