13th January 2012
I have just finished watching your program "Like a Virgin", I thought it was fantastic an eye opening and I would have loved to have watched it before I lost mine. But there is one thing I have to say. Your program revolved around the opinion that there is never a good first time. Which I totally disagree with, from experience.
I do not at all regret my first time. Yes, I would have loved it to be with my now boyfriend who I love dearly. But I had a great first time with my ex.
I am 17 and was when I had sex for the first time. I have a rule, that you must stick to, to ensure that you have a good first time. I did not have sex with my ex for a month (he had lost his virginity months before). We wanted to before that but we stuck to the rule as we both agreed that it would make us certain we both wanted it. And I needed to know that I trusted him.
At our one month mark, I told him I was ready and he smiled. We planned to do the deed the following Thursday as his dad would be home late. I finished college before him so I went home spruced myself up and meet him in town, where we went to the local shisha bar, not before we had to talk to my cousin which wasn't at all awkward. During our shisha session, we seemed to have created a sort of smoking foreplay as we were both basically running out of the bar to get the bus to his as we were both gagging for it.
When we got back to his house and rushed to his room, where we passionately made out and stripped. It was only at this point that I thought of all the horror stories i had heard "IT'S SSOO PAINFUL" "HE'LL LEAVE YOU STRAIGHT AWAY" "HE PUT IT IN MY BUM" "I COULDN'T WALK" "YOU'LL TURN THE WHITE SHEETS RED" I paniced for a milisecound and then thought "pfft this is me". I looked him in the eye and kissed him and said I was ready, he asked if I was sure, and I said yes, he slipped a condom on and entered me.
It hurt so little it wasn't even pain. I had the most amazing orgasms on that time, it was out of this world. As I lay there after he finally finished, I thought "what the hell was everyone fussing over? That was amazing!" then he came back in and said "oh you've bled a little but that's entirely normal, don't worry" and kissed me on the head.
I had the best time with him. I trusted him, he didn't leave me, we loved each other for a while. But now I've found a man who wants exactly what I want and wants me forever, he has a larger talent ;) and we are perfect for each other. But I really don't regret my first time.